Thursday, January 31, 2013

Personal Unglued Moment

It hasn't happened in a very long time, but it just happened!
I almost didn't blog about it, but I've just recently started following a bunch of different bloggers. I remember as I've read their stuff, I'm so thankful she is keeping it real & letting us know we're not alone in this journey I refer to sometimes as The Mommahood. So here I am, raw & real, telling you: you are not alone.
I had one of those head spinning Momma Moments.
I just came unglued at the girls....I literally went postal on them. I screamed at both of them. I haven't one this since I before I read the book Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst.
Awesome book if you haven't read it! I highly suggestion/recommend it!
After I scream & sent them both out of the room, I had a little Momma Meltdown (yes there were a few tears shed): Momma just needed 2 seconds alone  cause I have been dealing with 2 kids who have also not felt well all day --cause they aren't exactly angels when they don't feel well--  in the kitchen to fix the dinner I knew they weren't going to eat cause this flu has zapped their appetite.
I remembered that in the book, Lysa gave me an invitation to a beautiful thing: Imperfect Progress. Impefect Progress = imperfect changes that are slow steps of progress wrapped in grace.
So I took a deep breath, prayed, & reminded myself that we are all 3 sick, have cabin fever, & they just want to be close to their Momma.
Then I remembered that my job is obedience to God, so I did what is so hard to do with adults, much less my own children, I confessed to them I had been wrong & (even though they hadn't actually done wrong, I felt they had so I) forgave them as commanded in the Bible:
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed" (James 5:16a).
"'This is what you are to say to Joseph: I ask you to forgive your brothers the sins and the wrongs they committed in treating you so badly.' Now please forgive the sins of the servants of the God of your father" (Genesis 50: 17a).
"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:13).
And then, as hard as it was {I've had fever since Monday after all}, I shifted my attitude to gratitude. The Bible says "Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus" (1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18). I realized they just wanted to be close to me & help me with what I was doing. How fortunate I am to have this cause not every parent has their child around to experience this for one reason or another.
Afterall, "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control" (Galatians 5:22-23). I want to be this an example not only to the world, but especially to my girls.
I must:
I'm not supposed to have this Mommahood down perfect, I'm just supposed to be working on making progress. I'm such a work in progress! And I'm BEYOND THANKFUL that God is still working on me!!!!
And as I'm finishing this, I'm trying my hardest to not come unglued again cause the dog is asking to go out for the umpteenth time in 45 minutes & Jamie is having trouble eating chocolate pudding & is making a crazy mess.
So I'm going to:


  1. Thanks for sharing. We've all been there. Hope you all get to feeling better soon. :)

    1. Thank you! I HATE when I do this!!! But it's just been one of those weeks & one of those days with this not feeling well. I'm just thankful I remembered what I've learned from Unglued & actually applied it! WoW...God is good!!!!

  2. Love this post! We have ALL snapped at our kids! Y'all have had a rough week. Hang in there! I have seen several people talking about that book. I am currently in a women's bible study and we are following The One Year Choronological Bible. There is a blog that explains it If you visit her page click on the tab for the 2013 version. It basically takes you through the bible and makes it easier to understand. I just finished The Purpose Driven Life too. I have reread it frequently! Thank YOU for being real!

    1. Thanks for reminding me that I am not alone! Today is better as in they aren't at each other's throats...but we had to go back to the PCP...still have fevers. I'll blog about it later. I will DEFINITELY have to check out those studies/blogs!!!! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Tasha, Thank you for sharing this, r e a l l y THANK YOU. I've been very hard on myself especially the last month or so, for not being the mother, friend, sister and woman that God wants me to be. I do what I know we shouldn't, compared myself to the others, which hasn't helped at all. After a particularly trying day where I became unglued at my children & my husband, after everyone was peacefully sleeping, I was sobbing at the kitchen table feeling horrible for my unglued moments thinking that all the mom's I knew would not have acted like me that day. Felt not good enough in so many areas , felt guilt, regret and that I just wasn't enough. Psalm 139:14 was placed in my head & my heart. "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well". I am far from perfect but I am a Child of God and He loves me no matter how many times I mess up. imperfect progress... God wanted to remind me of somethings that night and I'm working on them with His help. STOP WORRYING. "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Phil 4:6-7. As I read and re-read those verses I could feel myself tense at the thought of really, truly letting go and not worrying. But God knew how I would feel and He had an answer back Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope".
    deep breath, stop the tears and remember imperfect progress...I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control....and pray. Just wanted you to know that your real life story made a difference, thank you.

    1. You're welcome! Thank you for sharing your realness too! Thank you for sharing those verses!!! I have a feeling I'll be referring back to them.

  4. Thank you for this!!! I tend to come UNGLUED a lot!!! I so needed this & think I need this Bible study. Thanks for keeping it real girl!

    1. You are welcome. It is a WONDERFUL book! I got a ton out of it & was SO THANKFUL I remember it last night when I was in the middle of that moment. I am also thankful that book has helped me avoid many unglued moments I would have definitely had in the past.


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